Okay, so people are not 'things', so work with me. I like nice people. I am a nice person. I want to help others and make this a better world.
What I hate are spiteful, nasty people. I hate people who are mean just because it is waaaay less effort to be mean and rude. And I hate people who will only do things because there is something in it for them.
Sometimes people say I am rude. I have to disagree, if I come off as rude, it is because you have said or done something so stupid REPEATEDLY that I can't take it. I am usually very laid back. Do it once, I can chalk it up you to having a bad day, but three times, I am pissed and I have to set your tail straight. At work, I often have to babysit grown ass folks to relinquish the PUBLIC computers so others can use them. They get upset. After the 10th complaint from the same person, I kindly remind them that they could purchase a computer of thier very own and they would not have this problem. I also remind them that there are programs available where they can recieve a computer (laptops!!) for free. Same with printing, tell them they can not print out twenty pages of thier astrological charts, they get pissy. I tell them they are more than welcome to walk down to the public library and use thier computers and PAY to print shit out.
Oh, but I digress. There is a difference between not suffering fools and just being rude. I know when someone is being rude to me because I am actin a fool (and I rarely do that) and when they are just rude. I worked customer service jobs for years. Don't ever, ever come to a customer service rep with a foul attitude if you want something productive done. We will do the bare minimum to get your ass out of our face. But if you are polite and calmly discuss why you are upset, I know I will go out of my way to help you and move a mountain to make sure you get what you need. People who yell, scream and bully people into getting thier way have bad karma. I firmly believe in reaping what you sow. Good things happen to me because I know that I try to treat people well. (and I don't do nice things because I want the favor returned materially.) Bad things happen to me too, I am not immune from them, but the bad things do not come as a result of things that I can control... I know bad things keep happening to my ex because he keeps doing spiritually dirty things to people and it keeps coming back to bite him on the ass. He always has an alterior motive for anything he does. Last year he took me to Costco and bought us $300 worth of food and supplies. I just waited for him to drop the favor bomb. He wanted me to write a letter forgiving over $20,000 in child support. I told him that was not my decision, the state would make that decision. So he was pissed that he spent $300 on us for food his CHILD would eventually eat, cause my boo can eat, and supplies she would eventually use, (she uses a lot of toilet tissue).
Here is a short and sweet guide to being nice if you are amicably challenged:
- Treat others as you would like to be treated
- If someone does something nice for you, pay it forward and do something nice for someone else
- If there is someone who brightens your day, let them know. It will brighten thiers.
- Hug someone
- Smile dammit.
- Say hello to people you pass on the street, especially if you see them everyday.
And please train your children on being nice. Nothing makes my slappin hand itch and twitch more than a snotty ass child. Hallay-lu-yer.