I am the oldest child of four. I am also a single mother of one. I ride the bus and I work with the public. I NEED alone time.
I like to describe myself as a social loner.... I like to socialize, but really don't mind being by myself. Sometimes I feel like hanging out and will easily talk to people around me, but I also avoid people, wear headphones or look at books while not absorbing a word or sound.
I love my child dearly, but she is a talker, hardly taking a breath between words. When I drop her off at her bus stop, I will walk down three blocks to the bus stop even though there is a bus stop across the street. I will also let a bus (sometimes two) pass me by in order to have a little decompression time between the hustle of getting my girl on the bus and opening the office for clients that are often demanding and a little crazy.
I figured out that the best reason for a set bedtime for your kids other than it is good for them is that you can be by yourself, settle in for the night, read a book, listen to some music, watch a movie that won't scare your children to death so they end up in your bed for a month. I put my girl to bed at nine pm sharp, get a nice cup of tea, read a book or knit a little before falling into a blissful sleep.
Sometimes, when I feel extra pressed by toomuchpeopletime, I take a day off from work. I send my girl to school without telling her that I am playing hooky, go back home, slip my pajamas back on, watch the View, and do whatever the hell I want to do. By the time she gets back to school, I am happy and refreshed.
At work, I found the best hiding place where I can sit down, eat, knit and listen to my music. I come back to work with a natural high and almost giddy.
The few times that my girl is away from home, I go out to my favorite joints, Ross, Diaso and Barnes and Noble. I can sit inside B & N's cafe with my triple chocolate chunk cookie, a grande cup of tea and a few books and chill for hours. And nobody bothers me. Today, that is my plan. I am going to stop by a fabric store, walk to the bookstore while listening to my audiobook and chill for a few hours while my daughter enjoys herself at my sister's home. I'll miss her, but look forward to my rejuvination.
I like to describe myself as a social loner.... I like to socialize, but really don't mind being by myself. Sometimes I feel like hanging out and will easily talk to people around me, but I also avoid people, wear headphones or look at books while not absorbing a word or sound.
I love my child dearly, but she is a talker, hardly taking a breath between words. When I drop her off at her bus stop, I will walk down three blocks to the bus stop even though there is a bus stop across the street. I will also let a bus (sometimes two) pass me by in order to have a little decompression time between the hustle of getting my girl on the bus and opening the office for clients that are often demanding and a little crazy.
I figured out that the best reason for a set bedtime for your kids other than it is good for them is that you can be by yourself, settle in for the night, read a book, listen to some music, watch a movie that won't scare your children to death so they end up in your bed for a month. I put my girl to bed at nine pm sharp, get a nice cup of tea, read a book or knit a little before falling into a blissful sleep.
Sometimes, when I feel extra pressed by toomuchpeopletime, I take a day off from work. I send my girl to school without telling her that I am playing hooky, go back home, slip my pajamas back on, watch the View, and do whatever the hell I want to do. By the time she gets back to school, I am happy and refreshed.
At work, I found the best hiding place where I can sit down, eat, knit and listen to my music. I come back to work with a natural high and almost giddy.
The few times that my girl is away from home, I go out to my favorite joints, Ross, Diaso and Barnes and Noble. I can sit inside B & N's cafe with my triple chocolate chunk cookie, a grande cup of tea and a few books and chill for hours. And nobody bothers me. Today, that is my plan. I am going to stop by a fabric store, walk to the bookstore while listening to my audiobook and chill for a few hours while my daughter enjoys herself at my sister's home. I'll miss her, but look forward to my rejuvination.
